tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26643254.post7609499545841434572..comments2023-02-20T21:29:09.033+11:00Comments on cogito cogito ergo cogito sum: Be the change you want to see!Amritahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11085959321069455203noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26643254.post-46085988645870526602007-10-23T09:14:00.000+10:002007-10-23T09:14:00.000+10:00kamesh - thanks for the comment, its very true!ai ...kamesh - thanks for the comment, its very true!<BR/><BR/>ai - long distances can work - I speak from personal experience.Amritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11085959321069455203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26643254.post-5285541594887688092007-10-22T15:29:00.000+10:002007-10-22T15:29:00.000+10:00Lady, it's not always so cut and dry as you make i...Lady, it's not always so cut and dry as you make it out to be.Here's the situation I'm faced with:<BR/><BR/>I'm in love with a guy who means the world to me but in a couple of years I know I want to go abroad and study. the thing is long distances don't work. so what do I do? Leave and hope that somebody better comes along or get married and smother my ambitions?<BR/><BR/>not so easy, unless you have some solid advice to giveAIhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17530403868883464019noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26643254.post-49668132935696827122007-10-19T17:46:00.000+10:002007-10-19T17:46:00.000+10:00I like your candidness in broaching an aspect of l...I like your candidness in broaching an aspect of life that I feel people seem to comment more and understand very little. I completely agree with the "understanding of the consequences of my actions", which I have seen really lacking in many marriages of people I know very well. <BR/><BR/>My take on marriages is threefold:<BR/>1. Marriage should be a pursuit of mutual happiness, and NOT some inevitable act based on some ticking clock(s).<BR/><BR/>2. Happiness in life is an amorphous concept. It's probably a combination of one's inner peace, happinesses of near & dear ones (spouse, parents, siblings etc.), job/career success and the list grows on. But finally its about having the best possible mix of these factors as life does not promise all of them to everyone. So a marriage finally becomes a pursuit of this balanced and feasible recipe of happiness in life.<BR/><BR/>3. Finally, I do not believe in the way some people turn geeky and try to fit things (rather mathematically!) in a marriage. Trust me, I know people who have a whole resume (qualifications, industry, salary!) prepared of the spouse(s) they would wish to seek! I believe that a marriage should be about two people committing to be together because even the world of happiness cannot replace the other person's presence in either one's life. When this happens, everything else will definitely fall in place and no sacrifice would seem bitter to either one of them!Kameshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05408444532460106820noreply@blogger.com